ok soooo where do all the jewish single ladies hang out?

so the back and forth ive had with my on and off again ex is finally over.def a mutual thing.. ( i still care for her deeply but our differences were just too great to overcome)..im sure in a week it will hit me but i have to move on

so now im looking for a Jewish girl only.. late 20s (28 the youngest) to early to mid 30s.. gonna join jdate but besides that where the hell do you meet jewish girls there are none down south.. seems like boca/west palm mostly..


any ideas? lol .. no latinas either (unless they are jewish also).. if i want to be serious it has to be Jewish going forward.

Good Luck with that....

I know in your world it's better to be with a Jewish girl who will make you miserable (until she leaves you and takes half of whatever little you've amassed, takes the kids and charges you child support) than to be with a girl that you are compatible with.

It's 2012, stop trying to make 'Bubby and Zaidy' happy...make yourself happy....there is nothing wrong with looking for a Jewish girl but don't turn it into an obsession.

If she's compatible with you....it won't matter what she is.

For once I'm going to resist the urge to say something mean to you and offer you some advice. Remember, I am 48 now. I met Rebecca when I was 36 and, up until that time, had never been engaged nor had I even considered it.

What I'm trying to say is that it's hard enough to find someone that you can truly make a life with as a real couple without trying to restrict it to only one small category of women. Your own experience with Pilar is proof enough. When it's not right, it never will be. No matter how hard you try to fit the round peg into the square hole, it won't work. The sad truth is that all this time spent with her has only stopped you from being able to find someone who is right for you and whom you are right for.

Take it from me.....don't look. When you're looking, you never find love. Love happens when you least expect it. If you're lucky enough to find someone and she happens not to be Jewish, trust me, it'll work itself out. Either she will realize that it's important enough to you and will convert or you'll realize that this new love is what's really important to you and you'll change your mind.

I honestly wish you luck because I am lucky enough to know now what a truly perfect marriage is and I wish everyone could experience it. Even you, Blingster.

...but our differences were just too great to overcome...

So she finally gave up because she couldn't unglue you from the XBOX and get you to pay attention to HER box, eh?

Listen, with my absymal track record, I'm the last person to be giving advice on that sort of thing (unless you want to know how to pick up 'fallen flowers') but Dade is right, you can't really limit yourself to a "category" of woman.

If you're limiting yourself to someone who believes in the same pissed-off old man in the sky that you do, you're ignoring a whole slew of potential girls out there for yourself. Sure, in an ideal world, my long-term girlfriend is a sensible blonde Russian girl in her late twenties from St Petersburg, but I'm not banking on that. If one day a loudmouth Puerto Rican girl comes along and knocks me off my feet, well, that's fine by me. And if my parents think she's a loudmouth Puerto Rican, well, that's their problem, not mine. Realistically they can't bitch since my mom is white and my dad is Colombian. But anyways...

I kind of see where you're coming from with the Jew thing, since you probably don't want to rock the boat with your mother, but to be honest, it's your life, not hers. Any sensible parent will come around on something like that. You'd be surprised. You could be gay and your mom would come around on it.

And yes, don't actively look. The dating sites are a scam. The only beneficiaries of Jdate are the guys who founded Jdate. Even the Jewish girls I know won't use it. Or any of those other sites for that matter. After a bit they seem like Facebook, but you're paying for it. Even Adult Friend Finder is scammish.

The best thing for you to do right now is get out there and socialize. I'm not saying join me on the Terrace every Sunday morning (besides, I leave by 8:30 nowadays) but there's plenty of opportunities for you to put yourself out there and mingle. Our little crew actually meets outside of clubs more often than not nowadays. A few weeks ago we were at Mercadito for Kat's birthday for happy hour. We were done by 10ish. Sure, some of us went elsewhere after, but no one's gonna hold a gun to your head to go to a club. My birthday party was at Chalk on a Friday. We had a few drinks, a few laughs, and shuffled over to Lost Weekend. We were done by 2 AM. And we weren't even that fucked up by the end of it. Fact is, a lot of us work or have worked in nightlife and we value the socializing aspect of things more than the music side of things nowadays. I work in nightclubs but I'd rather hang out with my friends in a bar or lounge. Since when I'm at a club I'm working and I need to be mobile.

Coach does art-related things a few times a month, and they don't go late or take place in a wild club either. And they're usually free, and with plenty of intelligent girls who go to them.

I'll probably do a TNL party again real soon, maybe the Friday of MDW somewhere on the mainland, and you're more than welcome to come out to it. You'll know all the girls obviously but they often bring non-board friends.

And to be honest, you should probably play the field a bit too. You're what, 34? You still have quite a few years to "settle down". I'm not suggesting going on a chocha binge like I did (it gets old after a bit) but don't go out wife-shopping. Get out of the house, play the field, see who is out there, and you'll rack up some experience and that way you don't get played as easily. There's nothing wrong with a few one-night-stands as long as everyone's OK with it.

Oh, and if I can recommend one thing ASAP. Get your own place. Even if it's not the "best", get your own place. Any girl, whether it's your one-time playmate for the evening or someone you are looking to go the distance with, isn't gonna be too fond of having to tiptoe around your mother and sister. I'm sure you have some money squirreled away, dip in the well and get yourself a little apt somewhere. It doesn't have to be a condo in Brickell. Even if you lived on your own in Kendall, that's more appealing to a girl than living with your mom. And besides, your family is local, you can stop in and see them whenever you want.

For once I'm going to resist the urge to say something mean to you and offer you some advice. Remember, I am 48 now. I met Rebecca when I was 36 and, up until that time, had never been engaged nor had I even considered it.

What I'm trying to say is that it's hard enough to find someone that you can truly make a life with as a real couple without trying to restrict it to only one small category of women. Your own experience with Pilar is proof enough. When it's not right, it never will be. No matter how hard you try to fit the round peg into the square hole, it won't work. The sad truth is that all this time spent with her has only stopped you from being able to find someone who is right for you and whom you are right for.

Take it from me.....don't look. When you're looking, you never find love. Love happens when you least expect it. If you're lucky enough to find someone and she happens not to be Jewish, trust me, it'll work itself out. Either she will realize that it's important enough to you and will convert or you'll realize that this new love is what's really important to you and you'll change your mind.

I honestly wish you luck because I am lucky enough to know now what a truly perfect marriage is and I wish everyone could experience it. Even you, Blingster.

thanks Dade.. the issue was not xbox either . i dont play much really anymore. i def paid attention.. it was a bunch of things.. but really i saw the signs it didnt work and i just didnt want to let go for fear of being alone.. alone now is really hard since i dont have the social life i had when i used to go out every weekend 5 yrs ago with you crazy fucks.

i dont like clubbing anymore.. i loved wmc and had a blast at salted but thats a rare thing for me now.. im 33 and also seeing how buster got married and so happy for him.. pod settling.. dade's beautiful relationship that he had with rebecca..

i want that more than anything. im not perfect.. i have a lot to fix in my life.. but i am a god guy and am ready to make a woman happy and fulfill each others lives.

just looking to see where i can meet a classy woman in my age range.

thanks

Your last sentence makes more sense. Age range is OK. You don't have anything in common with a 21-year-old club bunny.

If you want to meet nice girls in "our" age group, just keep your eye on here and on Facebook and see what the goings-on are. Like I said in my earlier wall of text, we actually meet more often than not outside of clubs.

yes i live at home and it sucks and its not due to my salary i could have moved out 2 yrs ago by now

my mom lost her job 8 months ago,, and my sister unfortunately does not make the salary i make and cant do it alone. hopefully, god willing my mom finds a job soon. i cant wait much longer.. i plan to leave this yr as our lease is up in august i wont resign along with my mom..

dad cant help mom as his hrs cut drastically at his job.. plus he has no obligation to an ex wife.. he can barely make ends meet himself.... so basically im only here as a good son i wont have my mom in a horrific situation. esp as she is going through a very hard time with her mom.. who is progressively getting worse in the home with alzheimers.. ( i see her every sunday.. and its depressing.. )

i have life is art on my facebook.. time for me to actually read when events come by.. sounds like a great place to socialize.

though i dont really know anything about art nor am i into it (i'm into broadway theater) but still.. nice place to go to..

I don't know much about art either. I'm too busy making it to concern myself with what else is out there. I know who Lebo is and I think Britto is the short fat guy with the shop on Lincoln Road. He also drunkenly tried to grab my junk at Space in 2004.

However, the few LIA events I've gone to, I've found it's a great place just to meet people, guy or girl.

And OK, if you're helping out Mom by covering part of the rent, that's fine, but even then, you still gotta get out of there. You could still give her a few bucks if needed, and live on your own. You'd have to budget but I know a lot of people (and you do too) who work, live on their own, and still send money to their parents if they are in that situation.